In loving memory of

Carol

2005

Carol Arlene Fay

In Loving Memory

2005

Jan Pond and family posted a condolence

Wednesday, October 5, 2005

My dear Jamie, Cindy and Patrick: I cannot exprss how sad, sad, sad I feel for your loss of your Mom. As a person who has made her living with words, I find I am unable to express my sincere sorrow for your mother's death and your pain. Carol was one of my best friends for almost 30 years. She was the person who introduced the "Sunset Crowd" of Wilma, Shirley, Denise and me to each other. Your Mom always had a smart remark, a quick comeback, and an incredible sense of humor. She even found the humor many years ago in having spent all day preparing dinner for us and when she found the recipe called for toothpicks to keep the meat rolled up while cooking, used the first toothpicks she could find. It was your Mom who remarked that the meat tasted a bit weird. It did too, because she had used peppermint flavored toothpicks. We were still enjoying that story when once again we repeated it last spring. Our lives intertwined with each other and with each other's family over the years, ever since Jamie was in Kindergarten. She claims I tried to kill her when my car stalled one winter night when she had to slam on her brakes on Cassandra. I had just come out of the driveway from the townhouses when my car stalled dead, right inthe middle of the road. It was a freezing night and I was going to a meeting. So was she, and as usual was in a hurry. She went off to her meeting and so did I. We arrived at the Anderson's front door about 45 seconds apart. Both of us were embarassed by the incident for about 2 minutes. That is when we first became friends, despite the fact that she frequently reminded me "remember the time you tried to kill me?" She was very supportive of me in my times of crisis, was happy in my successes and moments of joy, and she loved my kids. My kids have always really liked your Mom. Felt safe and comfortable. Your Mom never spoke ill of me, David, Stephen, or Andrea and often told me how much she liked them. (Now, Don is a different matter) I don't know if she ever passed on to you how much I have always cared about each of you - though it is from a distance now. I am still unable to grasp she won't be at the next birthday celebration, shopping trip, or on the phone later tonight. We called each other frequently to just to say hi and check if things were ok. Your Mom always said she was ok, or almost ok, despite her worsening illness. While I grieve because I have lost a friend, my sorrow is unlimited for your loss of your mother. Please know you are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you and may you find some comfort in knowing that your Mom was a Hell of a Lady who was loved by so many. Love to you, Jan